I try to be positive. I try to focus on the good in people and situations. I really do.
Right now, however, I’m struggling with finding positives. The problem is, I’ve been reading news stories on my homepage. They are absolutely horrific. I don’t want to repeat them and give them more life here in this blog, nor do I want to dwell in these negative stories, but I do feel the need to comment.
I am saddened by the stories I read today that feature someone who is in some sort of position of power or control over someone else. In more than one of these stories their behavior was horrifyingly brutal, leading to the loss of life of an innocent. I’m shocked and disturbed by these stories. One featured a teen and a younger child, the other a police officer and a puppy. I felt the joy drain out of me as I read these. I am horrified.
There is so much good in the world. There are so many wonderful teens who are loving and caring and help others everyday. There are many more police officers who are compassionate and brave rather than brutal and cowardly, at least that’s what I believe. So what do I do? Bury my head in the sand and ignore the news stories? Pretend that these stories of cruelty don’t bother me? Of the two I prefer to ignore them.
It’s not that I think they will stop happening if I don’t pay attention, but at least those stories won’t steal my joy if I don’t give them my attention. I do, however, worry about turning a blind eye. I feel like we must be witnesses to the evil in the world so that we can contribute to ending it. I don’t know how to do that, other than to contribute in positive ways everyday. If we all did that, maybe there wouldn’t be so many damaged, angry people causing so much harm in the world.
March 6, 2014 at 11:21 pm
I hear you! I stopped watching the news almost 4 years ago. And oddly enough, life goes on whether I am emotionally sticked in or not. Keep in mind, it’s designed to create anxiety. Anxiety if you miss something really “important”. Baloney!! Don’t participate. You’ll be happier for it and as a happier person, you’re more likely to have a positive effect on others. At least, that’s my take on it…
March 7, 2014 at 6:00 am
Thanks for your comment. I was raised in a four newspaper (morning, evening, NY Times, Wall Street Journal) home and the dinner hour was accompanied by both local and national newscasts. Back in those days I could name every major world leader, quote the prime rate and the price of gold, and, when I was quite young, even give you the day’s body count from Vietnam.
I have chosen not to do that. I may catch five minutes of local news here and there, and a couple of times a month I may watch the national news, but I mostly get my news from the internet. I guess I just need to filter it better.
Thanks for your comment. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this.
March 7, 2014 at 7:03 am
I find that since taking this approach, my anxiety levels are significantly decreased and my quality of life has increased. Good luck!
March 7, 2014 at 12:20 am
In our house we say that the news stations search the world over to bring only the worst news to our attention. But if you want to see something awe inspiring, watch the rescue in Florida of the mentally ill woman who drove into the beach and the guys who just pulled off the road and went and saved her and her kids. I know how hard it is – I study the Holocaust, after all. But there is a lot of good.
March 7, 2014 at 5:56 am
Linda, the Holocaust is the exact reason why we can’t ignore these stories, much as I would like to. We have to hold one another accountable for our deeds, especially our misdeeds.
I agree that there are so many good things in the world. I think I need to be more vigilant about seeking out those stories.
March 7, 2014 at 5:35 am
I tend to skim past some of the more horrific stories. I’m one of those people who tear up during commercials, if I read everything I’d be crying all day. I do find it disturbing that we seem to be seeing more and more stories involving depraved people doing horrible things to each other, not sure if it’s an upward trend or just that news outlets simply find printing those stories brings in more revenue.
March 7, 2014 at 5:55 am
I don’t know that these incidents are happening more often, but I’m seeing them more often, and they are terribly upsetting. I will seek out the positive stories and try not to give too much attention to the negative.
Thanks for your comment.
March 8, 2014 at 5:42 am
Like you, I honestly can’t cope with horrific abuse news articles nowadays, they can stay with me for days and haunt my dreams. The hideous Daily Mail website is strewn with stories and gory pictures of actions and behaviours I can do nothing about and they only reinforce my belief that the world is a horrible place. What I do sometimes to is change my behaviours in order to make a difference re the things I eat and wear, and I try to be kind whenever I can. That’s all any of us can do really.
March 8, 2014 at 6:28 am
I agree. We each make our own contributions in small ways everyday. Now if only I could find my rose colored glasses; I seem to have misplaced them.